When performing a breakup ritual, uncrossing ritual, or cleansing ritual, it is important to understand how to focus your intention correctly. You don't want this to be in any way haphazard. So . . .

Before reading this post, please FIRST read our blog post about How To Fully Activate Your Ritual Oil.

The MAIN principle behind activating your ritual oil is, as you read in the above post, to have a vision of what you want and to be able to feel the joy of already having that thing.

But what if what you want is NOT to be in a relationship with someone anymore? Or NOT to be experiencing a cursed state anymore? Or NOT to be stuck with a bad habit anymore? If you're in a situation like that, you're not likely feeling anything close to joy; it's more like frustration or anger or despair.

If you know anything about “The Law of Attraction,” you know that the Universe doesn't work well with “I don't want.” Why is this? Because by focusing on what you DON'T want, you are still focusing on that thing.

For example:

• "I don't want to be cursed" is focusing on the curse.
• "I don't want to be with this person anymore" is focusing on being with that person.
• "I want to overcome this bad habit" is focusing on the bad habit.

The principle behind “The Law of Attraction” is that what you focus on YOU GET MORE OF.

So how would one use a ritual oil to GET RID of something WITHOUT focusing on it?

The answer is that, OF NECESSITY, your break up ritual or your uncrossing ritual MUST be TWO-PART. We'll use the example of breaking up with someone you don't want to be with anymore.

Part I

Part I of your Break Up Ritual IS THE BREAK UP RITUAL. However you choose to do your break up ritual, whether it be using a spell kit or a ritual oil with your own flair or by following some YouTube video, the break up ritual must be done for the sake of your own brain being able to pick up for certain that “I am done with this person.”

Check with your own guides with this one obviously, but here is how I, Rowan Agatha, ALWAYS deal with such stuff:

1. Decide that you are moving on from the relationship.

Sometimes this step is MESSY. Sometimes it takes time. Sometimes you are back and forth and you feel incredibly stuck. This is the hard truth of it. Sometimes it takes a while to SAY AND MEAN “Enough is enough.” So the first step is to GET TO THAT POINT AND MEAN IT.

If you say to yourself, “And I mean it,” but you end up going back to that person again, then you didn't mean it. Go through your process obviously, until you eventually get to where you TRULY MEAN IT.

2. Perform your breakup ritual.

If you are mourning the loss of the relationship, I strongly recommend a funeral. This is a great way to begin the grieving process and to get closure.

If you aren't mourning the loss but are filled with anger, hatred, bitterness, remember that strong emotion binds us to the object of our focus, and it further charges your spell with the INTENSITY OF YOUR ENERGY. In a case like this, I recommend imbuing your break up ritual with as LITTLE EMOTION AS POSSIBLE. Do your breakup spell matter-of-factly AND THEN FORGET IT.

Part II

Part II of your breakup spell or ritual is to perform a spell of JOY that connects you deeply with what you truly want. This is where you follow our blog post about How To Fully Activate Your Ritual Oil.

Nature, The Divine, The Universe . . . they all hate a vacuum. So much so that they made the Law of Attraction work ONLY in positive terms; namely that it will ONLY WORK ON WHAT YOU ARE FOCUSED ON.

It may not be a new relationship with Prince Charming; it may be the joyful marriage of you with your self-respect.

What does that look like for you?

Can you imagine yourself riding the horse you always wanted as a child? The wind blowing through your hair as you charge up the mountainside? Is it you standing on stage with your violin and the audience going crazy over your solo performance? Is it fully luxuriating in the now-monthly massage you suddenly have the cash to indulge in?

Whatever it is, your new vision must be infused with absolute joy.

“Getting Rid Of” Rituals are 100% about filling that empty space with something GORGEOUS AND JOYOUS AND FULFILLING.

Always remember this, and your breakup ritual or uncrossing ritual or cleansing ritual will net you the greatest benefit. One thing is damn certain, and it's that The Universe WILL fill up whatever vacuum you give it with the biggest and strongest thoughts on your mind and feelings in your heart.

Don't ever let that power go to waste (or worse) go toward something you totally don't want more of.

Sincerely,
Rowan at Twichery

P.S. For more infomation on this topic, please see our blog post entitled Lift Me Up (Long Version). You might also check out its sister blog entitled After-Spell Care Instructions.

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